.she's in a situation.

[.now this is wat i call perfect timing.]

so today i got a message from a friend going thru a problem. She was telling me about how she's interested in this girl. they spendin time together, kickin it, smashin and she really likes her and feels like it could almost be love. (sounds great right?) WELLLLLLLLLL here's the rain for that parade... the girl she's seeing has a "wife" and a few kids at the crib.

damn son... u hit home bro. HELLA HARD!

sooo what the fuck fuck do u do? are u supposed to be like, "yo u got a family at home and i ain't tryna have the drama" or "hey... lets coast thru this muthafucka... u showin interest so clearly u ain't tryna be where u at now."

first thing is figuring out if she's jz tryna fuck or if this could become a ball of feelings and emotions. for the sake of the advice being given we gon go wit "this could become something" (because if she jz tryna fuck homie... hit it and gone on home pimp!). now as boyfriend number 2, ur job is to follow HER lead. don't go get ya own sheet music and start drummin "Flex" when she playing "Groove With You" (isley brothers for u that don't know...) but in the same sense, if the door is open: go in and make it happen.

*REAL NIGGA TIP* If a girl says "im involved but i can have friends" respect her relationship, but watch how she moves, watch her words, and how she may phrase things cuz she may just open up enough for u to go in, get the flag, and have her stuck on u.

But having her stuck on you isnt enough! my nigga if she has a number 2 she can have a 3, 4, and 5 (we call this the bitch tier consisting of: her starter, her bench, and her bottom bitches) so therefore u gotta play position so that any others never happen or any that are there already become non existant. i kno it seems hard but if u a gentleman (and put ur ego to the side) u can have her to the point where the number stops at 2.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS FOR NUMBER ONE...

now if u number 2 and u tryna create something with this young lady, u gotta get past number 1. get in her head... find out why she's really here. we know she's tryna create something with you but go BEYOND that... get in her home life... find out wat number 1 is doing so wrong that has her gal damn near in another relationship. THATS IMPORTANT! tell her u want the whole truth... u wanna know if they still fuckin (THATS IMPORTANT!), when the decline started (HELLA IMPORTANT!), how she feels about them (r they in love, is it just love or she jz ready to be done), if she sees it getting better, and where does she see yall going. YOU HAVE TO KNOW THESE THINGS IF U AIMIN FOR THE TOP!

of course as a person thats kinda helpin someone cheat, ur gonna feel bad for this other stud (u got 30 seconds to feel bad my nigga) but the next thing that crosses ya mind should be "clearly that nigga ain't handlin bizness so i gave her gal the shoulder she needed. technically ya bitch chose me patna." or... the girl u messin wit is a manipulative maneater and likes to have her cake and eat her pussy too (but we gon hope dat ain't the reason. jz look out for those... i know a few).

now, the move from number 2 to number 1 should be easy my nigga (im only coachin cuz its been done before... remember crystal & kela? took me 3 days to make that transition. i was so smoove wit it). Its all about watching your footsteps. at this point, it ain't about her, it ain't about her girl, its about you walkin this tight rope makin sure u don't fall but playin superman when she does. When she's into you, you start fuckin up they life at home witout even knowing it. she can lay up under that nigga all night but my nigga as long as u dun said the right things and u dun gave it to her real (told her the truth), you gon be on her mind sun up to sun down to sun up my dude (And anything in between). u wanna be her 1st thought in the morning, you want her to start zoning out thinkin bout u. matter of fact, you kinda want her to be disrespectful and text u in front of her gal. (now i know yall thinkin... aye crusay, karma is a bitch, she could get u the same way she gettin this girl. uh NO nigga she can't. wanna know why? because you already beat the game! you know wat u gotta do to make sure another u ain't in the bushes somewhere). but know that it ain't ur job to get her out of the situation, its hers. she's grown, she makes her own decisions. the family and shit at home ain't ur concern. thats not for u to fix.

Remember: u can NEVER make a girl leave, but u can damn sure be the reason.

quote me hoes - POW!



- Yungin ((f.l.h.))