.she's in a situation.

[.now this is wat i call perfect timing.]

so today i got a message from a friend going thru a problem. She was telling me about how she's interested in this girl. they spendin time together, kickin it, smashin and she really likes her and feels like it could almost be love. (sounds great right?) WELLLLLLLLLL here's the rain for that parade... the girl she's seeing has a "wife" and a few kids at the crib.

damn son... u hit home bro. HELLA HARD!

sooo what the fuck fuck do u do? are u supposed to be like, "yo u got a family at home and i ain't tryna have the drama" or "hey... lets coast thru this muthafucka... u showin interest so clearly u ain't tryna be where u at now."

first thing is figuring out if she's jz tryna fuck or if this could become a ball of feelings and emotions. for the sake of the advice being given we gon go wit "this could become something" (because if she jz tryna fuck homie... hit it and gone on home pimp!). now as boyfriend number 2, ur job is to follow HER lead. don't go get ya own sheet music and start drummin "Flex" when she playing "Groove With You" (isley brothers for u that don't know...) but in the same sense, if the door is open: go in and make it happen.

*REAL NIGGA TIP* If a girl says "im involved but i can have friends" respect her relationship, but watch how she moves, watch her words, and how she may phrase things cuz she may just open up enough for u to go in, get the flag, and have her stuck on u.

But having her stuck on you isnt enough! my nigga if she has a number 2 she can have a 3, 4, and 5 (we call this the bitch tier consisting of: her starter, her bench, and her bottom bitches) so therefore u gotta play position so that any others never happen or any that are there already become non existant. i kno it seems hard but if u a gentleman (and put ur ego to the side) u can have her to the point where the number stops at 2.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS FOR NUMBER ONE...

now if u number 2 and u tryna create something with this young lady, u gotta get past number 1. get in her head... find out why she's really here. we know she's tryna create something with you but go BEYOND that... get in her home life... find out wat number 1 is doing so wrong that has her gal damn near in another relationship. THATS IMPORTANT! tell her u want the whole truth... u wanna know if they still fuckin (THATS IMPORTANT!), when the decline started (HELLA IMPORTANT!), how she feels about them (r they in love, is it just love or she jz ready to be done), if she sees it getting better, and where does she see yall going. YOU HAVE TO KNOW THESE THINGS IF U AIMIN FOR THE TOP!

of course as a person thats kinda helpin someone cheat, ur gonna feel bad for this other stud (u got 30 seconds to feel bad my nigga) but the next thing that crosses ya mind should be "clearly that nigga ain't handlin bizness so i gave her gal the shoulder she needed. technically ya bitch chose me patna." or... the girl u messin wit is a manipulative maneater and likes to have her cake and eat her pussy too (but we gon hope dat ain't the reason. jz look out for those... i know a few).

now, the move from number 2 to number 1 should be easy my nigga (im only coachin cuz its been done before... remember crystal & kela? took me 3 days to make that transition. i was so smoove wit it). Its all about watching your footsteps. at this point, it ain't about her, it ain't about her girl, its about you walkin this tight rope makin sure u don't fall but playin superman when she does. When she's into you, you start fuckin up they life at home witout even knowing it. she can lay up under that nigga all night but my nigga as long as u dun said the right things and u dun gave it to her real (told her the truth), you gon be on her mind sun up to sun down to sun up my dude (And anything in between). u wanna be her 1st thought in the morning, you want her to start zoning out thinkin bout u. matter of fact, you kinda want her to be disrespectful and text u in front of her gal. (now i know yall thinkin... aye crusay, karma is a bitch, she could get u the same way she gettin this girl. uh NO nigga she can't. wanna know why? because you already beat the game! you know wat u gotta do to make sure another u ain't in the bushes somewhere). but know that it ain't ur job to get her out of the situation, its hers. she's grown, she makes her own decisions. the family and shit at home ain't ur concern. thats not for u to fix.

Remember: u can NEVER make a girl leave, but u can damn sure be the reason.

quote me hoes - POW!



- Yungin ((f.l.h.))

In 2010

.patience is a virtue.

so much i wish i never said... i never wanted u to leave. things become harder and harder the longer we are apart. it took everything in me not to drop down to my knees and beg you to stay. i want you so bad, even though ur not here, i still see you... i can feel ur presence. i just wish you knew that i was different. i wish you could understand that after 2 years of chasing you, im not going to do u like the others... but then again i understand why you wont come back... you've heard that from the last 2 women u were with.

i been fighting with myself about you for weeks... hell i've been fighting with the world... telling them how it doesn't matter what happens, im gonna love you anyway... telling them how ima stick it out and make it work even though you don't want a relationship...

you don't want a relationship...

but you do.

u told me everyone could see that you wanted to be with me...

i told u everyone could see that i wanted you...

but neither of us saw it in each other.

i always swore after Crystal, i would never drop another tear over a female again. but there i was... standing in that parking lot with u fighting back tears... looking down at the ground because i didn't wanna look up and see the image i still hold in my head of u crying all because of me... but i couldn't help it. the tears fell and i knew i had lost u.

kinda felt like a shot to my chest.

felt like i lost my heart.

felt like somebody took a piece of me.

now im wakin up in the middle of the night lookin at my phone hoping i've missed a call so i can call u back or hoping u sent me a text so i can text u back... but its nothing.

u jz keep saying u need time and im tryna give u that but i can't take dis shit no more. im tryna deal wit it the best way that i know how. tryna stay occupied... but ain't nothin workin. i think i came down with a case of u.

or maybe im so lost in the fact that im so in love with you that im not thinking straight.

so ima sit here...

&&ima wait.

ima do everything i need to jz to prove that i love you and you're the one for me.


bank on dat shawty.



- Yungin ((.f.l.h.))

.what i'll never tell you.

i see you...

every fucking night...

i can't sleep anymore because you invade every dream. my mind constantly shows vivid flashbacks of you and i. i keep seeing you, feeling you, smelling you, hearing you, tasting you... but ur not here. i miss the way you would smile at me after going at it over and over again, the way you kissed me after not seeing me all day.

how is it that we go from talking all day everyday to 1 text every 2 days?

now the situation is so fucked up, im tryna find reasons to see u, but even them valid reasons dont matter. tryna find any reason to text you (like 2 new blogs today)... but it ain't shit to say no more.

my whole mind has been you. every thought. i wonder who u fallin asleep on the phone wit now... if u think about me... just wats goin on in ur head.

no answer tho.

just empty ass texts with no explanation.

aight den coo. fuck it. ima just go back to dating these hoes and fuckin who i want.

i can't. every woman i meet aint u. i try to find anything in her to remind me of you... i can't find it so its on to the next one...

and the next one...

and im still searching.

so now its to the point that im getting pissed off at myself. tryna retrace my steps and tryna find the signs and i can't see it. so now im lookin hella dumb tryna show u that i want you... that i been wantin u.

i think about the nights that we spent together and how close we held each other. i still laugh about the night i said i love u and then ran. i only laugh cuz it's like "well nigga where was u goin?" little did i know, you loved me too.

i unknowingly fucked up and wish i woulda saw it coming... now im in this deep hole. like u ask me things and i know ur upset about something i said and u choose not to tell me what it is.

lack of communication is the leading killer in lesbian relationships (title or no title)

but i cant blame you. its on me and i've accepted that.


i just want my Apollonia back.



- Yungin ((.f.l.h.))



ps: u niggas foolish if u think her name is really apollonia.

.u are wat you tweet.

lately ive had a little (unwanted) time to myself. so what better way to pass a lonely night by going to house & hotel parties wit the best of em?

so i meet all types of women (its become evident that it's latin season) and they all have the same thing to say about me... "you're not who i thought you were."

who did u think i was? some whore? the nigga that gets around with every model, every pretty chick? this cocky nigga livin the fast life? their response is usually "yeah. i've seen your twitter page."

seriously people? my twitter?

okay. i understand i say some outlandish shit on twitter. quite fuckin humorous but i can be quite the ass hole. i piss women off with some of the things that i say. females stop diggin me because they think to hard about what i tweet. i admit that i may take a shot or two at someone but damn... every tweet?

yall niggas takin twitter to seriously.

i know that when females hear my name they think im this nigga just living it up. i supposedly got hoes everywhere, bitches all up and thru my crib, i even got the question "are you a pimp?" supposedly im the nigga that preys on females... thats y im so quiet in the club.

a pimp dat preys on girls...

iono who been tellin yall these things, or maybe my tweets say too much while saying nothing at all... fuck maybe its just yall.

lemme say this to clear the air: i dont prey on females. 9 times out of 10 if im wit a girl, its not cuz i came at her... she came at me. i HATE making the 1st move. i do it on occasions cuz i kno if i dont get her then, i won't get her at all. im quiet in the club because i don't like to be seen. don't get me wrong, i don't mind being seen. my whole thing is i don't like to look on downelink the next day and have hella messages. hoes post pictures of me in the club, videos... i mean seriously, i shouldn't have to flag videos of myself and send admins of these sites emails sayin its unapproved shit. i go to the club to handle BIZNESS or show support for my community and my supporters.

girls look on my twitter and begin to look at me as the good bad stud. im this good nigga but im a "bad boy"... even girls that i THOUGHT knew me have started looking at me differently thanks to twitter. i feel like if u wit me damn near everyday or if we talk on a regular basis, you know im not this "bad boy" people perceive me to be.

here's a little true false for u:

- I only date white girls... FALSE! i do like snow bunnies don't get me wrong but i don't care what color u are... if i like u, i like u.

- I only date models... FALSE! models are coo, but i been there. i prefer not to date a girl in the industry unless she is grounded and centered.

- I have a girlfriend... FALSE! i had something like a girlfriend... things happen. but i have been single since the middle/end of february.

- I have girls on rotation... FALSE! i was sleeping with the same girl for like a month or 2 now (up until a couple weeks ago) and i still haven't even kissed another girl.

- Im a pimp... FALSE! like seriously... that shouldn't even be questioned.

So really people can we cut this twitter shit out? im not that hard of a person to talk to. if u think im takin a shot at u... holla at me. if u think im being hella rude, tell me. if u need an explanation on something i said, get at me. i don't bite. jz stop judging me based on what i write...

its twitter people.


get to know me...



or fuck off.


-Yungin ((.f.l.h.))

.everything but the title.

So... you've found the one u wanna be with. U spend every day together, fuck everyday, she stays at ur crib, u stay at her crib, met friends, met family, said the I love yous, ur falling in love with each other, talkin about the future, saying how you'll never leave... and pow!

She disappears.

You have this one super small ass argument and u don't hear from her. She won't pick up calls or return them. U send a text and u get nothing back. Feels like a break up huh? Feels like u can't breathe, don't wanna sleep in ya bed cuz she was just in the same sheets, aint tryna watch any movie that reminds u of her, or maybe u gotta go buy new lotion cuz the only lotion in the house smells like her (random I know but I can't be the only one... lets be real gnr...).

But y r u hurt?

Yall weren't together. That was NOT ur girlfriend. She aint obligated to call, she aint obligated to come by or chill, and she aint obligated to talk to u and only you.

but neither are you.

We as people can fall so deep that we consume ourselves with one person, forgetting that we are not in relationships and that they are just friends. No matter how much work u put in, how much time you spend, how many I love yous you get from her, she is just a friend.

But friends don't kiss each other on the mouth right?

(Shoutout to my nigga BillieSimone)

So what is it? What do you do? How do you handle it? How do you make sure that there's no one else tryin to get where you're at?

You can't. there's always somebody trying to get ur position which is why you step ya game up. Date other people if u need to. But even dating others won't stop u from experiencing the pain of her leaving if she chooses to do so. All you can really do is treat every conversation, every kiss, every hug, and every I love you like its ur last one...

or leave.

Regardless, your in a situation where someone is bound to get hurt so call it what it is...



- Yungin. ((f.l.h.))